Why do Johns Solicit?

"Mongering has perhaps warped what I want in life. Because now all I want to do is stay single and f*** whores forever!"

- A john who has chose to pay for sex rather than date

Reasons for Solicitation 

"When times are tight, people look for ways to save money. "These days, it's cheaper to rent than to buy," says one man. He's not talking about videos, cars, or a place to live. He's talking about sex. Bargain sex ... For some men, cheap sex means sex that is bought ... Their answer is to remain single by choice and pay for play rather than pay for a date ... Paying for sex is also the answer to the relationship-wary - the jaded, the spurned, the disillusioned, or those who just don't want the hassles that come with relationships or marriage ... In essence, these men want sex without strings." 

Average cost of a date in the U.S.: $100
Average cost for sex with a prostitute in U.S.: $50

It's All about the Cash

"Some men who choose the lifestyle of a single john do so because they're fed up with the rituals and expenses of dating: "I have gone on date after date," says Charles, a 34-year old office manager in Dallas. "I spend and I spend and I spend, and I don't even get a kiss goodnight ... Well, I'm tired of it. I'm tired of spending hundreds of dollars on dates that lead me to nowhere land or my right hand ... So now I only date working women.""

Fast, Quick, and Easy

"For alarmingly increasing numbers of young men, dating in the twenty-first century has been reduced to a jaunt into a fast-sex outlet for a quick fix to satisfy a craving. They view paying for sex as faster, more certain, and more efficient than dating ... For these johns, it all comes down to prostituted women as a commodity. "Maybe I'm just more impatient," says one younger john. "I grew up in the age of fast food and hi-speed internet. I want sex NOW. Not in weeks, months? Years?!""

The Hassles of Dating
"Pay for play (P4P) ... is hassle-free. There are no attachments, no pesky emptions, no hurt feelings on either side. A "working girl" gives [johns] what they want, when they want, without any of the "issues" they may encounter in a relationship ... The desire to dispense with "emotional baggage" is a common theme among ... single johns. Others speak of eliminating the "drama" of relationships."

Jaded
"For another group of johns who reject the hassles of dating, the motivating is a failed relationship or marriage."

"I just got out of a three-year prison sentence [marriage]. It was a costly divorce but it was worth getting away from all her complaining. Every time I got home from work, it was bitch, bitch, bitch ... I no longer will go out with any woman on a date because I don't want and don't need the drama. Now when the urge hits, I call p a sex provider and she gives me exactly what I want - searing hot sex with no complaints, and better yet, no insults."
- Marvin, a car salesman

"Chasing women is a pain in the ass. Far too much aggravation for me. No, I'd rather pay for it right up front. Paying for sex stops all the "I wanna get married" stuff from the girlfriend. Doesn't set you up to get raped in divorce court ... and you can relax and enjoy yourself without all the drama that comes with living with a female."
- Online screen name "Roadwarrior"

Maximum Pleasure, Minimum Fuss
"For many johns the biggest benefit of all is that there's no wondering how the date will end - and they do consider these dates."

"At the end of the date with the prostitute you know you are usually going to get that release."
-Unknown

"I am a single guy. No girlfriend and wouldn't want one. I like pretty women and sex."
-Unknown

"I find it empowering that I can fulfill my manly needs whenever I want with minimum fuss. The best bit is that I can leave afterwards."
- Online screen name "Finlay"

Getting the Hot Girl

"Many ordinary guys - the kind without the glamour or the privilege of celebrity - are not satisfied with ordinary girls. What they want they perceive as beyond their reach: not the average girls but the babes."

"So, mongering is a way for me to get that choice girl. I just want to experience the beautiful side of life before I die. If it means going to Tijuana for a nice time or the Philippines, then that is good."
- Online screen name "Hot Stuff"

"I'd rather wank off to a porno. If I'm gonna be spending my heard earned cash I want to spend it on things that I can't get otherwise, which is stunningly beautiful women."
- Online screen name "Sleazy"

Recapturing Youth
"The boasts of men in their forties, fifties, and sixties who've "bagged" eighteen- and nineteen-year olds choke the discussion forums on Internet sex sites. Men also banter about the magic elixir that has renewed their sexual prowess and replenished their stamina: Viagra."

"There is no substitute to screwing a different 18-year old girl each time, any female with eventually get older and become boring sexually."
- Online screen name "Devilman

"There is no way a 21-year old would ever go on a date with me, never mind sleeping with me. But when I go to a 21-year old prostitute and show her the money, she doesn't say "no," and I get what I want: a date with a hot chick."
- Unknown

"When a hot, young babe says to me that she's never experienced such longevity, I, of course, don't tell her that it's all because of Viagra. I want her to believe that us old guys are better than the young ones. What we lose in recovery power, we make up in staying power."
- Unknown

Note: All quoted sections of this blog post are from "The Johns: Sex for Sale and the Men Who Buy It" from author Victor Malarek.