Who are 'the Johns'?

"Few of them look like what most people imagine men who purchase sex to be: awkward, creepy loners fixated on porn before heading out for something more real. To the contrary, many of these men look like very ordinary guys. Some are average-looking. Others are handsome. Some are young - as young as fourteen - others are in their twenties and thirties, sixties and seventies, even ... nineties. They are stockbrokers, plumbers, doctors, professors. They're also lawyers, judges, Boy Scout leaders, and accountants. Sometimes, they're men in uniform - soldiers, sailors, international peacekeepers, cops - and other times they're men of the cloth. Sometimes they're sorry, and many times they're not."

- Victor Malarek, The Johns: Sex for Sale and the Men Who Buy It

"In a [recent] comprehensive study, “Comparing Sex Buyers with Men Who Don’t Buy Sex,” Melissa Farley, PHD, Founding Director of the Prostitution Research and Education, compares the characteristics of men who buy sex versus those who don’t. Besides their involvement with prostitution, the men surveyed revealed surprising attitudes and behaviors when it came to sex and women". To read more on this article and the revealing attitudes of the men who buy sex, click here. 

A New Market for Sex
The Internet
No longer do johns need to cruise the streets, pull up to a prostitute, negotiate out in the open for services and price, and risk being nabbed for solicitation out in the open. "The Internet has become a one-stop shop for johns - a Yellow Pages directory, support group, and travel advisory rolled into one ... In the relative comfort of their homes and under the guise of a screen name, the johns share their reasons for wanting or needing paid sex, their fantasies, their escapades, their best and their worst. But they also rally around one another, offering comfort, validating each others' feelings and fears, and valiantly defending their lifestyle against attack by outsiders or creeping feelings of guilt."

Any Regrets?
"Men who buy into the lifestyle may spend a lifetime buying sex. Veterans speak of mongering for decades. Others, still young, claim in online posts that, having partaken, they never want to stop". "Ask these men whether they have any regrets, and you'll likely here a resounding chorus of "Hell no!"

Ten men were arrested for engaging in prostitution during
a sting Tuesday, Feb. 19, 2013 in Richfield.

"I feel no guilt whatsoever. I am getting what I need and I am helping them get what they need. No one is being hurt ... I do not believe that God would send me to hell for acting on my natural instincts."
- Screen name "Loaded"

"At least a couple of these girls would tell you, I'm one of the best things that ever happened to them ..."
- Unknown

"My only regret: Why did I wait so long? Why did I waste so much time and money dating normal women and not getting laid when all I had to do was hire a sex worker? Now I'm making up for all those lost years and I'm finally enjoying what man was put here for."
- Screen name "Man Whore"

"Yeah, I feel terrible pangs of guilt when I'm reaming [them]. But I'm Catholic so I go to confession so I can f*** them again the next week."
- Screen name "Addick"

Solicitation and Purchasing Women is Socially Acceptable
To Son ... with Love!
Long-held patriarchal traditions encourage boys' initiation into manhood through sex. The brothel is just one of a plethora of options to make this transition. This "right of passage" sends a "message [that] is twofold: passage into manhood in this forum is seen as an accomplishment and, more alarmingly, if you have money, you have the power to buy a woman." This tradition fosters the belief that in the future, they as fathers, should initiate their sons into manhood through the same right of passage.

Hangin' with the Boys
"Stag parties the world over are notorious for paid hanky-panky". Societal norms and pressures encourage men to have "one last go at their buddy's premarital freedom" by providing him with a hooker for his bachelor's party. "Men are routinely arrested by vice cops across North America while cruising hooker strolls in search of the evening's entertainment". Even when it's not for a bachelor's party, "guys' night out [evenings usually include a visit to the] nudie bar."

R & R
"Solders on R & R - a rest and relaxation break - and sailors on shore leave are notorious for paying for sex. For them, it is also a rite of passage, usually the last course after a wild night of chugging copious jugs of beer."

Travelling Johns
Johns travel abroad and search for other women than Western Women/American Women (WW/AW) because of the feminist problem. Johns are typically searching for women who will care for them and only them, whose mission it is to be completely selfless and will devote themselves entirely to the service of males. Many johns are threatened and disgusted by WW/AW because these women want power and equality, and because they are capable of independence and are not dependent upon men for success. Many third world and war-torn countries are currently experiencing a large influx of men searching for sex with women and young children (male and female). Additionally, in these countries men can pay a relatively small amount for the "services" they want in comparison to other countries.

"If I had lots of money, I'd be spending it on whores. I'd be banging them day and night in every hot spot on the globe. Thing is, I'm an ordinary Joe with a job that leaves me with just enough play money to take a two-week sex vacation once a year."
-Unknown

"They should erect a statute at the Bangkok airport in my honor for all the poor families I've helped with my hard-earned money."
-Unknown

Note: All quoted sections of this blog post are from "The Johns: Sex for Sale and the Men Who Buy It" from author Victor Malarek.